Why do we start talking about emotions which influence our life only with adults?

We run the training on time management and self-discipline for adults who only then start to realize how important it is to set the goals, how great influence law of attraction has on our life and how important it is aspire to what we have resolved on.  When I see the reaction of the participants, who discover these simple truths and that they can change their lives, draw more from it and be more efficient, I wonder why most of us find out about these truths when we are already adult. Many of us will probably either never use this knowledge as not everyone will be lucky to participate in the training or course which can lead us to experience all these beautiful things which can be of immense meaning to us or will never read a book which touches on the basic psychological laws which determine our actions, success, achieving goals, and so on. Very often I run coaching and training on self-presentation and running public speeches.  In this case as well I have an opportunity to watch  the surprise and discovery on the participants’ faces when finding out that the success of the speech is not only about its content. Our emotions and emotions of the audience are a very important part of it. These emotions determine as well  creating the relationship with other people, determine our  behaviour and decisions. How is it possible that while living in the world ruled by emotions, modern educations tries to convince us that everything depends on the knowledge and rational thinking. If that was the truth, marketing and especially advertisement which influence our emotions so greatly, would  lose its raison d’ętre, building relationships in business environment would be simply a waste of time, and so on. Truth is that the emotional part of our lives is the dominant one. These are the emotions which determine our development, actions and success. We can support the thesis that modern education neglects this aspects of our development and tries to convince us that knowledge and skills are the factors determining achievement of long-awaited targets and success. That is why Brian Tracy International, consulting and training oriented company, along with Pro Futuro school decided to carry out an experience and run the classes on self-development. Our experts joined the team of the school and did all the best to adjust the programme aimed at adults to the way children at the age of 13 and 14 years old perceive the world. It was a considerable but worthwhile challenge faced by the trainers as the attempt proved to be more than satisfactory. Secondary school pupils grew fond of the classes and I do not know if they realize that the children in other schools are deprived of this privilege. Truth is that it was risky venture as talking to children about success which is mostly built on emotions, building relationships, emotional intelligence and the like factors hard to be measured could end up in a belief that there is no point in learning, and we would like to avoid this misunderstanding. Hence, we have put a strong emphasis on the awareness that  the knowledge and skills are indispensable, however, without understanding the emotional aspect of our life they might prove worthless. It is commonly known that, excluding scientific career, the success in live is in most cases not experienced by the top students. If we look at our schoolmates we will see that those who have achieved the goals are not those who were the best at school. It does not mean that being top student hinders anything, of course it is not like that, we live in a world of knowledge and it is crucial to exist in our society. What we want to say is that the knowledge itself is not enough as the world is full of ‘well educated poor men,’ who have not succeeded as they lacked the ability to build relationship or they missed the emotional intelligence. What is even more interesting is that the young people, at the classes, were more aware of these factors than many adults at the training we run. Could really the natural awareness of relationship or the emotional intelligence be diminished while educational process? Are students being told in their schools that the success depends on the knowledge? This is bold thesis but is it real? Coming back to the classes in Pro Futuro school.  We have divided them into two stages. At the first stage the pupils were able to experience what setting the goals is really about and what is emotional self-awareness, the second stage, run in English language, was aimed at teaching the pupils to control their emotions and audience’s emotions while self-presentations and public speeches. The experiment was amazing experience for the pupils but also for the trainers. Most of us were able to look at what we do from totally different perspective. It is still too early for final assessment, however, we have no doubts that the young people equipped with what they have already experienced at the classes run by the Brian Tracy’s experts will get off to a flying start in life more easily than their peers from different schools.

 

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